Unknown to all of you, a lot has been happening in my personal life which I have not shared. As I mentioned in the post that was published on Christmas Eve, I have been getting a lot of signs and indications from the Universe that there are some changes that I need to make in my life.
The Universe works in very interesting ways. Ever since I have been unemployed, I have been guided in a certain direction. I just was too worried about finding a new job that I was not aware of all that was happening.
It is so important to be conscious of what is happening around you and within you for often the answers that you seek are just waiting for you to acknowledge them. This is what has happened to me.
Due to recent events such as watching the movie The Guitar, it has been brought to my attention that I have been living my life with one foot in one reality and the other foot in another reality. Actually, I have been doing that for quite some time.
My marriage, spiritual studies and my writing are all my true reality. However, when it comes to my environment and my work I was going through the motions without any real passion.
About two weeks ago, I was at a job interview and I had one of those moments where I could hear how I sounded to the other person. I realized that there was no sense of joy or passion in my voice that I usually have when I am with my husband or engaged in my writing or spiritual studies or anything that I love.
With that one thought, I realized it was no wonder that none of my interviews were working out because I really did not care about the gig. I was more concerned with being employed again and not with the actual work that I would be doing.
I then went back into my memory banks and recalled that every job that I did get, I went to the interview loving the idea of doing the requirements of the job description.
I then started to look for jobs that I would enjoy while I worked on my writing and realized that what I would love my life to be like cannot be done in the town I live in. This was was another eye opener. The more I started to consider what my ideal environment would be like, the more I realized that my current environment cannot provide me with those things.
For most of my youth, I did not love my hometown. As a result, I went elsewhere to find happiness only to realize that happiness can never be found in external things or locations. Anyway, one thing led to another and we found ourselves back in my hometown.
At first, this was fine because we both knew we had to be here. However, things are different now. I am no longer the same person that I was when we moved back here. I am much more aware of who I am and what is my truth. I realize that the problem with this area is not in the area itself, it is in me. I am not a good fit for this part of the country and neither is my husband.
So the question we were faced with is do we stay here because it is where we already are or do we make some drastic changes in order to have a life that is in harmony with who we truly are as people?
…I’ll keep you posted!
Have any of you made any drastic changes in your life? Do you feel in harmony with your environment?
Special Note: Here is the link to my newest article, Living in a Parallel Universe, at Elephant Journal.
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hey. Am smiling.looks like u’re gonna move and am hoping u come to india. Hyderabad will be perfect. Am eagerly looking forward to see what ure new line of work is. .sounds like fun.
Hi Uzma,
It is fun….a whole lot of fun. So this will be awesome. As for India, even though we lived there before, I do not think we will live there any time soon. The Indian government does not allow foreigners to work in India. You can live there but you have to liive off your own personal accounts or be employed by a company that is based in another country. However, we do plan to go back and visit as often as we can. India has a special charm and place in our hearts. We will get back there…eventually!
Nadia,
While who we are is determined from the inside – I do believe that certain environments can help to enhance that feeling of who we are. So, maybe there is a place out there that will feel more connecting for you and your husband. And as you search deep within ‘you’, I know that you are listening very much to that voice of your soul. Nadia, there is work out there that is right for you. I look forward to seeing where this leads for you…
.-= Lance´s last blog ..Sunday Thought For The Day =-.
Hi Lance,
I totally agree about how certain environments enhance the feeling of who we are. I really believe that and have seen it occur in others. We have been talking a lot about places that we feel called to and we are investigating all the options. We both feel and know that we will be guided to the right place. I learned a long time ago to listen to my heart and trust me, it is speaking quite loudly. I have faith and know that all will be well. We just are taking things one step at a time. Please know that you support is much appreciated!
Hi Nadia,
Last Easter I went on a retreat on a Hare Krishna island. It was a nice few days which I thoroughly enjoyed, but I wouldn’t say that I had any particularly profound or mind-blowing experience there.
But when I came home I was completely unsettled, and I couldn’t go to work the next day. When I examined what was going on I realised that I was in the job that I was doing out of fear. As you described, I didn’t have any passion for it and I knew if I stuck with it, it would drain me of my soul energy.
So, in the midst of a recession, I quit! And then over the following months I found courage quietly evolving within me to make a move from Dublin (where I’d lived for 16 years) to the west of Ireland. I’d wanted to make that move for three years, but was too scared about the upheaval and potential lonliness of it all, and so hadn’t put my attention on the desire.
Once I knew I was ready to move, I still didn’t know where exactly I would go. But I trusted that I would find the perfect place for me, and I believe I have done so. On paper I would never have picked where I ended up (beautiful Westport, Co. Mayo) as it is a tourist town (not my thing!). But when I walked down the street to meet a friend there (en route to a place I thought might actually suit me) I fell in love with the energy of the place.
It’s still very early days and I don’t know how things will work out for me here, but I have a great feeling about the place
Sorry that this turned into a bit of an essay! All I really wanted to say is that I know where you’re coming from, and I know that you and your husband will find the perfect place for you. What an exciting adventure for you this year!! Looking forward to seeing how it all pans out for you
.-= Hilda´s last blog ..Happy New Year! =-.
Hi Hilda,
No need to apologize, I loved all that you wrote and you have no idea how much I can relate to everything you shared. Thank you so much for being so open because your comment was another (of the already many) confirmations of what we have been feeling.
Isn’t it wonderful when you just know that something has to change? It is like everything around you decides to join in a chorus and tell you that you need to make some changes. I commend you on following your feeling and living from your place of truth. That is so awesome! You should be very proud of yourself. And I have no doubt that things will work out. They always do.
I also look forward to seeing how things pan out for me because at this moment I have no clue but I know all will be well.
This is funny, because I’ve been through the same cycle. I left my hometown for Spain in 2006-2007 I think and returned, now I’m heading back out again because I’m supposed to be somewhere else.
I feel more in harmony than I ever have now and I think it will only be augmented with my coming move. You’ll find what you want in no time, I have no doubt about that. Keep rocking, Nadia!
.-= Henri @ Wake Up Cloud´s last blog ..The Law of Attraction Explained =-.
Hi Henri,
Thank you so much for sharing your journey and for the support. I definitely am sure that all will be awesome and you can always count on me to keep on rocking and smiling!
This has been an interesting post for me to read as I too am back in my home town, (have been now for a few years)… and just recently was having this conversation with my partner in regards to environment.
Best of luck with whatever you decide to do and I hope that you find a place to make your heart sing.
best wishes
Ribbon
.-= Ribbon´s last blog ..I love hearts…. =-.
Hi Ribbon,
Thank you for the support. It is very interesting how you are having the same kind of conversation with your partner. I guess something is up in the Universe!
I also hope that you find a place that makes your heart sing. Please keep me posted, I would love to see how things develop for you.
Hi Nadia .. you’ve seemed unsettled for a while – some of your postings have shown that .. the questioning etc etc I’m pleased to hear you are both rethinking location, aspects of work etc.
I moved away from London and went to South Africa, and it was the best decision in many ways I’d made .. I could grow up, be myself, learn about another life etc etc. I came home – not to a home town .. just England .. my instinct said go to Cornwall (where at that stage my mother lived) but jobs were a huge issue – the previous recession of ’92 .. and I stayed nearer London, and near one of my brothers, the other is in London.
I know that I can make a similar decision again in a year or two, once my mother has moved on & life has adjusted .. we’ll see – I’m not ‘settled’ here, but there are advantages – it’s an easy town, I can walk everywhere, or jump on a train and get to London, or the airports .. etc etc – so we’ll see.
I’m sure you’ll make the right decision, you’ve both been through this process before and understand the intuitive needs of it .. Good Luck .. we’re here for you ..
What an interesting 2010 you will have ..
Hilary Melton-Butcher
Positive Letters Inspirational Stories
.-= Hilary´s last blog ..Books, books – Glorious books … =-.
Hi Hilary,
I am not surprised by what you wrote about seeming unsettled. The signs and indications of a much needed change began to occur in the summer. I did not fully comprehend everything until recently. Actually, once I became unemployed, the signs just kept on coming but I just was so focused on finding another job that I did not fully contemplate all that was being shown to me. That changed last week and that is where we are now. To be candid, words cannot adequately describe the joy of being at this point. For even though things may still not be fully clear, there is a road and a path that is becoming more visible with each second.
Thank you so much for sharing about your journey. We are always guided to the right thing. I see it time and time again. It is so beautiful. I am sure that you will know what to do when it is time.
And thank you so much for the support! It is very much appreciated.
Hey, Nadia! You know me… I’m a big fan of changes and new beginnings. There’s something about starting over entirely (when it is possible) that gives you a whole new energy and perspective to help you shift directions and create the life you want.
Every time we’ve made a big change, or moved somewhere new, all sorts of awesome, magical things happen. As you always tell us, follow your heart, my dear… whatever you choose will work out for the best.
.-= Lisis´s last blog ..Inspiration from the Tao Te Ching: Harmony =-.
Hi Lisis,
I totally agree. As you know, we have moved so many times too. But this change is something very different than those other times.
And no worries, we will definitely follow our hearts. We would not want it any other way!
Thank you so much for the support and for sharing your thoughts!
I am also unemployed, I wasn’t aware you were, maybe I missed that, sorry. It is rough, I went back to school, and stopped looking because I lost hope, but now I am looking again, but again, I am discouraged because I send my resume out into what seems like a black hole! I guess I need to step things up and focus more on what I want to do, the thing is, what I want to do, I don’t yet have the knowledge or experience in. At least for now I do not, I am working towards it and hoping to find something in between.
on your question…
So the question we were faced with is do we stay here because it is where we already are or do we make some drastic changes in order to have a life that is in harmony with who we truly are as people?
I ask myself this question all the time, because of my unemployment and because of some issues at home. right now I don’t know, I am not ready to let go I guess.
.-= Jen´s last blog ..For every storm a rainbow… =-.
Hi Jen,
No worries about not knowing that I was also unemployed. What you wrote about your experiences sound so familiar. It does feel like a black hole because you try and you try but yet nothing works. It definitely causes a lot of frustration and discouragement. In my case, I realized at that last interview that I sounded so lifeless because my reasons for applying for that job was out of duty and not really loving the idea.
I think it is awesome that you know what you want to do. I do too. So that is a big thing because not many people really know what they would love to do. So you are on the right track especially since you are working towards it.
As for what you said about not being ready to let go, that is fine. You will know what to do when the time comes to let go. And who knows, maybe you are not supposed to let go because something really good is on its way to you. So much of life is unknown to us and we just have to do what feels right to us at any given moment. So maybe you just are supposed to be where you are?
Hi Nadia:
Thank you for sharing your dilemma with us. I know, as much as we want them, there are no easy answers. But it sounds like you have been listening to the universe and your intuition and this is a good thing and a great start.
With the exception of going away to school for a few years, I’ve lived in Chicago my entire life. I’ve lived in different neighborhoods, which sometimes feel like a city in itself. But I know what you mean about having that feeling about being in the right place and feeling in harmony with where I live. I know that a fresh start, a change in scenery has had a profound impact on my outlook in the past. I have a feeling this could be the same with you and your husband. I wish you luck on your journey and hope that you find some clarity in your situation!
.-= Tim´s last blog ..Weekend Video Diversion: John O’Donohue =-.
Hi Tim,
Thank you for the support and sharing your experience as you changed communities within the Chicago area. You are so right that a change in scenery can do wonders. I have seen that occur in my past too.
Life works in interesting ways. Actually, once I realized what was happening, the feeling of struggle disappeared because I saw what was happening and a sense of freedom came along with it. So all is good. I am curious to see how things will pan out.
Wow, it sounds like you are at a crossroads. I never felt in tune with New Jersey myself; however, circumstances have kept me in Southern Jersey. I lived in Denver for six months about fifteen years ago and had to return for financial reasons. I almost moved to Oregon after my divorce but met somebody who is in love with Vineland. I have thought about Arizona and most recently, Virginia Beach; however, I don’t know that my boyfriend would consider it. Making a big move like that cannot be done lightly but some people have found moves to a whole new environment to be tranformative. I hope wherever you go, you keep blogging!
.-= lena´s last blog ..Emotional Hygiene–Check Yourself =-.
Hi Lena,
No worries, I definitely plan to keep on blogging. Writing is my passion.
I know what you mean about circumstances keeping you in Southern Jersey. The same has been true for me. I have lived all over but circumstances forced us to move back here and I am at peace with what happened. It is just time to change things around. It will be interesting and you are right, drastic changes should not be taken lightly. However, sometimes you just have to jump off the cliff.
I guess it depends on the person and depends on how they are feeling. We each have to be true to how we feel and our circumstances. I never thought a year ago at this time, I would be feeling the way that I am feeling. So you just have to take one day at a time.
Hi Nadia!
We’re in much the same place in this area, you and I. Both my job and my current location are really incongruent with what I want out of life. My job isn’t reflective of who I am, and neither is the town where I live. I have decided that 2010 will be the year when i change both of those circumstances. I’m moving somewhere warm, near the ocean (but still haven’t picked anything more concrete than that), and I’m going to start earning a living as a writer. I don’t know when or how either of these things will happen, I’m just trusting the Universe to take care of it
.-= Jay Schryer´s last blog ..At Last, Me Again. =-.
Hi Jay,
We definitely are in a similar boat regarding the whole issues of work and environment. And I know what you mean about the kinds of things you want in the area you live in but not knowing the exact location yet. Sounds so familiar!
Like you, I am trusting that the Universe will guide us in the right direction. Actually, I have no doubt it will. The guidance and direction will come when it is time.
Hi Nadia.
When John and I wanted to move out off the city, there was a time when we had no idea where to go. AND that is still a situation I don’t know well what to do with.
All good and well to let the universe do its work but what part did I had to play in it?
Just sitting with my arms folded didn’t sound right to me but I had no idea how to select the next town to live in. I had no idea so where do you go from there?
THAT position, THAT not knowing I found horrible and I found that time very unpleasant and confusing. However I kept the intention, I did want to leave the city and grow my own veggies and John and I just went driving around to “feel” what area felt good.
Well that didn’t help either as most of them felt good.
Then of course the universe was doing its thing while I fretted, I only wish it would have told us it was on the case.
And of course the universe provided us with this wonderful place and we have been eating our own veggies for over one year now.
If only I could get past that horrible period of uncertainty with a knowing that the universe IS in the back ground sorting it, if only I could trust, I could enjoy that time feeling like a child before Christmas.
I have made many changes now and still there is always THAT period where the uncertainty gets me.
Although you take yourself wherever you go, once you have peace with who you are, you can change towns for reasons the universe will support. It always supports going towards a desire, it will never support running away.
So if you indeed are in that place of uncertainty what to DO next, lots and lots of love and encouragement from me looking on the side lines and cheering you on. You will find your place and your employment you love, it is the law of the universe.
Hugs Wilma xox.
.-= Wilma Ham´s last blog ..Only acceptance has you do things differently. =-.
Hi Wilma,
I loved what you wrote about the distinction of moving as a means of running away as opposed to moving because of going towards a desire. That is so true and so beautiful.
As for what you wrote about uncertainty, I totally understand that feeling. I know that we will be guided as to where to go. We have many options. We just need to figure out which option is the one that the Universe wants for us. We figured we would go to all these places and see which one feels perfect. This should be interesting because it is the first time in my life where I have so many options to pick from in terms of where to live. It is fun feeling even though I have no idea how things will eventually turn out.
The fascinating thing is the minute we started to talk about the possibility of moving, I felt like twenty pound had been lifted off from my chest. Living in this town has felt like a prison. I never knew the extent of it until we talked about what we could do to change things.
God has a wonderful sense of humor combined with lots of love!
Hugs to you too!
Hi Nadia…
I know exactly what you are wrestling with…exactly!
And the only words of advice I have for you belong to Joseph Campbell…
Follow Your Bliss…the Rest Will Follow.
Wherever you go, whatever you do, let your loving light shine through.
xxooo
Peggy
.-= Peggy´s last blog ..Creativity =-.
Hi Peggy,
I love it! That Joseph Campbell quote first crossed my path when I was in college and I always remembered it. You are so right, it is absolutely perfect for now.
Thank you so much for all the support and the encouragement. It is very much appreciated!
xxooo right back to you!
In my personal experience, it is best to be congruent and true to the self. I had to take some very drastic decisions lately myself. In the very process, some people were not very happy. However, I wouldn’t change a thing. I know that with the decisions, I will be more at peace. In choosing to be in harmony from the inside-out and from the outside-in (a process of inter-alignment), I am also sharing that very same message via my blog.
I make the choice in allowing my life to become an authentic expression of who I really am. It is amazing how things start to evolve. While things are currently still in progress, I have every hope that they will work out beautifully in the end.
All the best to you in the making of your decisions. No decision made in conscious awareness is ever a wrong one! Be courageous and you’ll start to draw things, ideas and people who’ll support you in your new adventure!
.-= Evelyn Lim´s last blog ..My Gratitude To You =-.
Hi Evelyn,
Thank you so much for being so open and sharing your experiences with all of us. I totally agree with you on the importance of being congruent and true to oneself. And it is awesome that you recently took some drastic changes too!
The Universe works in interesting ways and I can see how I was led to this current point. It is very beautiful and humbling for it proves (yet again) that we are always provided for and looked after.
Thank you for support!
I ended up in my hometown after graduate school and 3 years of not being able to find a job. I have tasted some jobs that I have just loved over the years, but mostly work turned out to be just to pay the bills – just like my life from 12 years on….
Of course, being here made my daughter’s medical needs something I knew how to take care of here…and where to go and what to ask….many of the “how tos”….from my own experiences.
When my mum moved in with us to let go of this life…..I got even more isolated and worked only spotty jobs to keep us afloat…
I do not know how life will work out…but I am attempting to sit and be open to figure out what comes next – I do have a long list of jobs I do not wish to do any more…such as cleaning houses and picking produce – and even child care….
I have moments when I get anxious….because we still have big medical bills to pay – I have no regrets for those 12 major surgeries. I am actively working on not succumbing to fear and the fear mongers….but we lost all our retirement funds …
I just am keeping my ears open to the spirit….I know the answers will come and to you too…
Thank you for sharing. Nice to find so many being open and listening…
Hi Patricia,
I really appreciate you being so open and for sharing your journey with all of us. It is understandable to have moments of anxiety. You are human and there is nothing wrong with having such moments. It is awesome that you are aware of what is happening within you when you have those thoughts. Some people are not so conscious.
In my experience, what has always helped me to be open to spirit was to be rooted in faith and to be calm. Anytime I have moments of fear, the ability to hear spirit just is much harder.
The good thing about being alive for a while is that you learn that life always works out for the best even when you do not see the solution. I have no doubt that you will be okay and you will know what to do when the time is right. Faith is easy when things are going well but the true test of faith comes in the scary moments. And that is true for all of us.
And here’s to the answers coming sooner than later!
Hi Nadia,
You are very wise to recognize what is causing the reaction in the interviews. The economy being as it is globally has made many people feel like they just have to go after something, anything but the problem with that is exactly what you describe. Even in a great economy, there are people who grab the first job that comes up and then spend their lives wondering why they are so unhappy. Their career unhappiness often spills over to their families and more problems erupt. I think the wisest people are those who realize that things are not right and strive to find a solution.
It’s kind of funny. I’m a career marketing professional but recently I realized that I was in the same position. I have always balanced being both a member of the career field and supported one or more non-profits. Since 1997, I was the Operations Manager for Wausau Whitewater. Finally less than a month ago, I realized I was exhausted, tired of juggling, and really wanted to know what it would be like to run my business and just my business. I find myself smiling all the time now. I feel joyful again.
I think that if you keep the search for the where and the what you are meant to do, it will end up that you will feel that same joy once again. In the meantime, blessings!
Hi Julie,
Thank you so much for sharing your journey with all of us. That is wonderful that you found that joyful feeling again. Yay!
I think it is really important for people to be in tune with themselves and to be conscious of what is happening. Like I wrote in the post, I was at that last interview and I heard how I sounded which caused a giant lightbulb to go off. I am so grateful for that experience because it brought to my attention what was happening.
All of these events have been big blessings because it made me realize what I need to do. I feel twenty pound lighter as a result of all of these thoughts. So no complaints from me!
Nadia, I am actually going through this very thing right now. Three months ago I was living what I thought was my dream, teaching in London. When I got fired from that job, for a little while I didn’t know what I was going to do.
So I thought about what makes me happy, what I enjoy best & most, and that is what I did. Do. What I do. The pay is miserable, but I love working in a bookshop again. Follow your bliss may be a cliche, but it’s still true. Best of luck deciding what you’ll do next. Be sure to enjoy it!
Hi Mimi,
I remember when you got fired from your job and how your attitude was so great. I think it is awesome that you are doing what makes you happy.
And as for following your bliss….cliche or not….I intend to do so! Once I saw all that was happening, I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off from my chest. It was a great feeling and I am really excited about the road ahead. Life is too short and needs to be enjoyed! Woo hoo!
Beautiful points.
A couple of my mentors gave me great career advice:
- what do you want to spend more time doing every day?
- are you working with the right people, on the right things, making the right impact, for the right person?
I’ve ultimately found the keys are:
- giving your best where you have your best to give
- finding the blend or sweep spot of passion + talent + value.
- spending more time in your strengths than your weaknesses
- living your values … and this is where the culture of where you work and where you live is all important
I do know that when I travel around the country, different places can very much feel very differently … and some places are way more supportive than others. Having this principle of contrast helps me get clarity on where to live vs. where to visit vs. where to stay away from
Hi JD,
Thank you so much for sharing what you have learned in regard to careers. Makes a lot of sense.
You also raised a great point about how each place carries a certain feel and/or energy about it. The key is to be in an environment which is in harmony with ourselves.
I remember the first time I left my hometown as a kid and went out West, I was so floored at how laid back it was. That made me realize that each location has a certain vibe. I know that where we live now is not in harmony with our nature. So this shall be a cool adventure!
This is just so interesting, Nadia, and I’m so glad you shared it! I’ve been making big changes, too (as you know), and it’s so interesting to watch it all play out. Like you, I’ve been turned down for job after job that I’ve gone into thinking, “Well, it’s not ideal but it’s a paycheck if I get it.” WOW! B-O-R-I-N-G and Ho-Hum here I come! On the other hand, I landed a shoveling gig for a decent hourly rate effortlessly, and I remember thinking when I saw the ad, “Now THAT would be FUN!” And it is! It’s more aligned with what I love doing: exercising, playing in the snow, being outdoors, getting paid a decent hourly rate for easy, fun work!
I love that you had the third person experience of hearing how you sounded to the other person during that interview. That’s HUGE! I’ve been doing the same thing lately — just sort of watching myself and my reactions to things. There’s still residue of the “old me,” and I laugh when I hear it resist what’s happening now. But the “new me” is LOVING this life. It’s unpredictable, but in all good ways.
Here’s to a passionate, fun-filled, joyous, and authentic 2010 for all of us!
.-= Megan “JoyGirl!” Bord´s last blog ..Funny Cookies =-.
Hi Megan,
That is so awesome that you are loving the shoveling gig. I am so happy for you! I loved how you mentioned that you landed the gig effortlessly. Usually when something is perfect for us, it comes without much effort. Life is supposed to be easy yet we make things so hard.
The third person experience of hearing how I sounded was so funny. It was as if the Universe pulled me aside and had me watch myself. I love when that happens because I learn so much. It was so obvious that all my reasons for going there were just wrong and that made it easy to take a step back and figure out what to do next.
I so happy that you are a “new you” who is loving life! You deserve it.
And amen to all you wrote about 2010! From your mouth to God’s ears!
Hi Nadia! Reading this was like deja vu for me – I could feel this in your posts for some time now so I am dancing and celebrating the insight into you that you are seeing and listening to! How exhilarating and exciting! Of course you must know I hope you choose to come to the Chicago area! Hafta throw that in! haha!
We actually DID make a drastic change back in 1990. Hubs was sooo unhappy at his work, and rather than change jobs, we moved to the country, on a lake out in boo-foo. It didn’t address the problem and in fact the whole move was a disaster. We bought the Money Pit – did you ever see the movie? Yep, two years, restructuring the house – it was so bad at one point we had a bottle of brandy and cried til 2 in the morning – almost just left it! Luckily for us, God knew we paid for our hastily insane decision and we sold it in one day and moved right back to suburbia – I kissed the ground here I swear. Same movers too! There was way more to the story (the pretend schools, the ruralness of inconvenience at every turn, the red-neck attitudes of people out there) but suffice to say, we moved for ALL the wrong reasons – duh!!! Hubs just brought his unhappiness over his work WITH him – and added to it the nightmares in the house from hell.
Your situation is clearly NOT this at all so this sharing was in no way meant as any cautionary experience lesson. It sure taught US one however! Hard for me to believe that was 20 yrs ago!
YIKES. We are survivors!
I’ve no doubt that you will be lead to a place that brings out the very best of your passions. There really IS something to be said for an environment that encourages thriving, not striving. I’m anxious to hear more! YAY for you!!!
Hugs,
suZen
p.s. I’ll still love you even if you don’t pick Chicago!
.-= suzen´s last blog ..The Down Side of Being Good? =-.
Hi SuZen,
You are so sweet to suggest moving back to Chicago! It is nice to know we are wanted if we choose to go there. That warms my heart which would be important considering how cold it gets out there.
Wow…what an experience when you moved to the country! I have seen the movie “The Money Pit” and I am sure the real version was not so funny. It is so cool that you were able to sell that home and move back to the suburbs. You made me laugh with the line of how you kissed the ground when you returned. I love it!
I have to tell you, the minute I fully absorbed what has been happening and had a talk with my husband, I felt like a huge load had been lifted off from my chest. It changed everything because this place feels like a prison. It is not a bad place but it just is not a perfect fit. I know that some way and some how we will know what to do and where to go.
If we end up in Chicago or just simply drive by there, I will definitely let you know!
Nadia,
This has come up so many times for me and my family…finding the right fit. We did the huge move thing 10 years ago…and it was a great growth decision…now we’re thinking closer to our original home might not be a bad idea…for many reasons…and still I/we have dreams of being in a much sunnier, warmer climate. I say if an opportunity for you to find a climate (in the broadest sense of that word) that suits you and your husband arises…why not go there?
gentle steps…where ever you happen to be!
.-= Laura Hegfield´s last blog ..Aaah the Time Space Continuum =-.
Hi Laura,
Thank you so much for being so supportive and sharing your journey in deciding where to live. It is awesome that the move you did ten years ago was of great growth. What a blessing! I think it is interesting how so many of us are dealing with the same kind of discussion.
We have some options in mind and we are just going to go with the one that feels right for the both of us. I have no idea how this will pan out but I am sure that all will be well. God works in mysterious ways and I know that this is happening for a reason.
As for a warmer climate, sounds good to me.
Hi Nadia,
Thanks for sharing this with us. To be honest, I’m a bit torn about how my surroundings affect me. One the one hand, I’ve always been able to make the most of where I’m living and enjoy it. But, I have a feeling a lot of my ability to do this was because I had few options (e.g., military life, commitments, etc.). Or better put, I had options but the pain presented by moving severely limited my ability to enjoy my life (e.g., financial or otherwise).
That said, I think you and Jacob are doing a great thing to move if you believe you’ll be in a more “fitting” place. And, I also believe that anytime I’ve moved or made any new starts in life, great things have followed: adventure, experiences, peace, and a full life! If you have option, go for it, girl!!
I also hear you regarding your job search and being unemployed. You are speaking volumes of truth!
I’m sending you lots of great vibes as you consider where you want to be in 2010!
~xo
.-= Lori´s last blog ..CYD 2010 =-.
Hi Lori,
Being unemployed is an interesting experience. Initially, you enjoy the time off for a week or so and then you become consumed with the idea of finding a new job. So you throw all of your energy into it and in my case, I just wanted to find somthing… I did not really care what it was which sounds so stupid to me now.
All kinds of signs were being directed my way. It was not until that last interview where I fully comprehended everything. It was so cool.
I totally agree with you that when a person moves or makes any new starts, great things follow. I have seen that in my life and in others.
Thank you so much for being so open with your thoughts about surroundings and for all the support! A person can never have too many great vibes sent their way. I am sending you lots too!
Hello,
something great always come out of what you have missed,
twilight awaits before dawn,
life is a roller coaster, you just have to stick to the ride and finish the day,
tomorrow there will be a different story.
Glad that you are supported and surrounded by many friends here,
God bless you, dear.
Hi Jingle,
Thank you so much for the kind words and support.
Life is a wonderful journey and each second is a chance to start fresh.
God bless you too!
I moved to Austin because I felt like I was out of harmony with myself. The best decision of my life. Met me wife and found my calling. I now know I can be happy back at home because I’m building a business that I can do from anywhere.
If you are thinking of moving check out Austin. Cheaper than West and East Coast and it has a cool hippy vibe with spirituality oozing out all over the place. Just saying.
.-= Karl Staib – Work Happy Now´s last blog ..January Theme of the Month – Relaxing With My Work =-.
Hi Karl,
That is so cool that you moved to Austin because you also felt out of harmony with yourself. I love such stories. Thank you so much for sharing it with me.
You are not the first person who suggested Austin as a good place. Sounds very cool. We will keep it in my mind.
Hi Nadia,
How interesting! I too have been feeling that my circumstances are not resonant. I have been unemployed for quite some time, and sure it’s the economy but I’m beginning to wonder if interviewers look at me and feel the lack of contrived enthusiasm. I love the writing but questions come up about what I should do with and how. Often at times like this, I can get withdrawn. In the past, I would have made forceful decisions and used effort and discipline to achieve, but all that achieves is a life compromised by fear. I’ve learned in the last three years to let it be, to let go, and allow. It’s not always easy or convenient, because we are trained we need to hurry up and get on with the business of living.
It’s also interesting to do this in real time, that is write about it as we’re going through it.
I’m hooked, I look forward to more about this from you!
k
.-= Kaushik´s last blog ..Dark Night of the Soul =-.
Hi Kaushik,
Being unemployed, although tough on some levels, has been a huge blessing. I did not recognize that until all these signs and signals started appearing in my life. Once I started to actually pay attention, they began to come more frequently. It was not until that last interview, where I realized how unenthusiastic I sounded. It was obvious I was going through the motions because I felt that I had to do so. That one event just brought everything together and now I see how out of place I am in the area that we live.
It has been a wonderful realization and now we are figuring out how to proceed. Like you, I have no doubt that things will fall into place at the right time. We just need to go with the flow.
As for what you wrote about sharing this in real time, I will hold off mentioning it until Thursday when I publish another update. Apologies on doing this but you touched on a great point which is the focus of my next post. Please know your input is greatly valued and I hope you check back then.
Nadia,
I’m in the exact same position. After completing my MBA last June, I felt as if I was ready to tackle the world! I am not passionate about my existing job, but love the company I work for. And unfortunately all my experience is in the IT field, yet I LOVE my writing and helping others. Luckily I do get great satisfaction out of my spiritual life of recovery and helping others through that outlet.
I couldn’t sleep last night thinking about it (which is unlike me), so I finally got up and prayed and meditated again about it. Since I worry about it (finding my passion in my career again) I feel like I’m not in faith. From past experiences, I know if I just do the foot work, God will put me where I’m supposed to be. I’m just not ready yet.
It was good to read that you’re sort of going through a similar experience. Although I live in a large metro area (KC) so I should have a good market to look around. Although moving to someplace sunny would be good!
.-= Jared | SpiritualZen.net´s last blog ..Want Happiness? Be Happy Now! =-.
Hi Jared,
Thank you so much for sharing how you are experiencing something similar. It is great that you work at a company that you love even though you may not be passionate about the job.
Actually, I just heard that 49% of Americans do not love their jobs. This is the highest it has ever been. Kind of scary to think that half of the population is not enjoying their jobs.
Even though we have no idea where we will go and all the details, we know that some way and some how everything will work out. It always does and that is what faith is all about. Just giving your best to the moment, following your inner voice and just letting go. I think it is wonderful that you are aware that you are not ready to do the foot work.
Much of life is about timing so maybe it is not time for you to do this yet? I am sure that when it is time, you will know and all will fall into place.
And as for sunny weather, that sounds appealing especially since it is so cold today.
Hi Nadia!
Happy new year to you! Best of luck making the decision that is best for you and your husband. I am a believer that we can bloom where we’re planted BUT I also believe that sometimes we need a clean slate and a fresh start in a whole new place. And, I think your statement about the people and area not being in sync with who you and your husband are means a lot. This could be your next grand adventure. Design the *whole* life you want and go for it!
I did end up renting The Guitar and watching it before Christmas. I can see how that left such an impression on you. I hope you have a wonderful year and that everything you need comes together in a surprising and delicious way! Big hugs to you, Jodi
.-= Jodi at Joy Discovered´s last blog ..Shake Things Up! =-.
Hi Jodi,
Happy New Year to you! Thank you so much for all the kind words and support. So much is happening right now, it is kind of amazing of how life works when you fully accept the realities of your situation. As a result, it is amazing how obvious certain things have become.
And that is so cool that you saw “The Guitar”. Seeing that one movie enabled the avalanche of signs that came. Life is awesome!
Hi Nadia, I could so resonate with you’ve written here, I’ve been making some drastic decisions myself lately (decided to get divorced, stopped working on some business projects) and many people didn’t understand and rejected me.
What I learned is if we continue to stay open and accepting the Universe will find a way for us manifest everything that is true and congruent with who we are.
If it led you to the point you are now, it will take you firther too as long as you allow it, let go of fears and worries and stay open. I wish you great luck and wisdom Nadia in choosing what to do next.
.-= Lana – DreamFollowers Blog´s last blog ..My 2010 Goals and Two Awesome Techniques I Used to Set Them =-.
Hi Lana,
Thank you so much for sharing the drastic decisions that you made. Deciding to get a divorce is not an easy thing to do and I commend you for doing what you feel is right for you.
I totally agree with you about how when we are open, the Universe provides us with what we need. I have seen that happen in my past and I am sure that it will happen again as we set out on our adventure. The interesting thing is once I fully accepted what was happening, the easier it was to see what needs to be done. That one shift in perception resulted in a feeling of being freed from a heavy load.
And your wishes are greatly appreciated! This is going to be an interesting road ahead for not only me but for you too! All will be awesome!
Hi Nadia,
I had a similar experience just before xmas and I had a tough decision to make but I followed the signs so lets see what transpires. Keep us posted.
.-= Amit Sodha – The Power Of Choice´s last blog ..Why It’s Pointless Going To University To Get A Degree =-.
Hi Amit,
Good for you for following the signs. I am sure you will be guided in the right direction. As for me, a lot has been happening since this post was first published. My next post, which will be published tomorrow, will go into more detail. I hope you will check it out.
Hi Nadia. Nice article. I’ve heard about how you can get certain signals from the universe, but I’m not exactly sure how this works. It’s nice though that you are getting these signals. Maybe part of it is your intuition that is also calling out on you.
I have these feeling sometimes. When I was in Taiwan, I was sitting in a lecture hall. I had wanted to make an internet marketing blog and had already made some 1000 plus word articles. One day I realize that I I knew nothing about it and I wasn’t interested about it.
I wanted to switch to self-help and self-improvement because it was what I liked better and was better at writing about, but something was telling me that I had invested too much work into my internet marketing blog. I switched it anyway because that was what my intuition was telling me and I’m glad I made that choice.
Today, I am happy that I didn’t stick to what I didn’t want to do. Anyway, I’m probably getting off on a tangent. I’ve never been to the country side and it definitely looks beautiful, but maybe you need to move if that’s what your signals are telling you. Whatever decision you make, I hope it all works out.
Hi Hulbert,
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with blogging. Good for you for following your intuition. Yay!
I think it is a combination of intuition and signals. Usually those two work side by side. A person can be bombarded by all kinds of signals but they have to be able to interpret those signals. That is where intuition/insight comes into play.
So are you still in Taiwan? I have many friends who are from there. Ironically, most of them are from Taipei and they love living in areas that are more country like because they are tired of being in the city.
Hope all is awesome!
You’re welcome. I actually don’t live in Taiwan, heh. I live in California, but I went there to visit my family and study for about a year last year (January to the end of November). It was quite an experience and I did most of my blogging there. That’s cool that you have some friends from there. The city is very busy with many people walking around or transporting to different areas. I think they might like the countryside more because it is more peaceful there.
Hi Hulbert,
Thanks for explaining the situation. That must have been fun to spend a year over there. How did you find it in comparison to California?
As for your thoughts about why my friends prefer the countryside…that is exactly what they said.
The great place about this big beautiful world is there are so, so many wonderful places to live in. That being said, “wherever we go, there we are. ” So our new horizons must come with new minds too, as I am sure yours will if you do choose to move.
Yes, I made a big big move 19.5 years ago to leave my crappy marriage for this one that has worked so beautifully. Love-life-wise, I know that is not the case for you, but I am sure you will find what you are seeking. Life is just getting started at every moment!
xo
.-= Jannie Funster´s last blog ..Wacky! (This’ll Explain A Lot) =-.
Hi Jannie,
It definitely is a big beautiful world out there which makes things even more interesting. We have options!
Good for you for leaving a marriage that was not working for you and it is wonderful that the second one turned out so beautiful. That is awesome!
Wow, what you said about suddenly hearing how you sound during the interview is quite something! I think that’s something I really ought to try and notice about myself more; how I sound and how I carry myself. Not that ultimately how you look or sound matters, but looking and sounding good on the surface is atleast some measure or whether or not you are enjoying yourself and making the most of the present moment!
.-= Karthik Kumar´s last blog ..How to be Disciplined the Chilled Out Way =-.
Hi Karthik,
You are right, how we look and sounds does not matter. However, it is important that what we are aware of what is happening within us. I realized in that interview that I did not have any sense of excitement about that job. I applied for it because I felt pressured to find a job since I am currently unemployed.
Even though some people may not be into spirituality, they can sense when someone is doing something with passion or not. And let’s face it, when some interviews another person for a job they want someone who will enjoy what they are doing.
So inner and outer have to be in harmony at all times. And we have to be very aware of when the harmony is off.
Thank you for this post! I have nearly identical feelings that you have with the town I live in and seeking other work while I blog and do my readings. Although I know to “follow the flow” sometimes dark and scary places happen. I know when I am feeling this I am manifesting and creating. I have found new friends and a group to help me “see with new eyes” in the same town I have been in for over 20 years. Following your bliss works and the universe will nudge you to the next step needed.Walk by faith not by sight.
Deb
Hi Deb,
Amen for walking by faith! I love that and really believe in following one’s inner voice. It always leads us in the right direction. Sometimes people are meant to stay in the same town for 20 years and others are meant to move to other places. There is no right way…just the way that works out best for the individual.
And good for you for finding new friends who assisted you in “seeing with new eyes”. That is wonderful.
Hi Nadia,
I totally visualized your description of your interviews and how you are placing yourself in their shoe. Empathy and intuition was very high for you in those moments….interesting.
Isn’t it amazing to have an event or moment of epiphany change and alter your perspective in life?
You had the strength to realize it and more importantly to take action Nadia.
way to go!
.-= Vincent Nguyen´s last blog ..Reach out of your "comfort zone" and Explore =-.
Hi Vincent,
Thank you for the support! I love when an epiphany happens. The feeling of having a new sense of awareness is one of the best sensations in the world.
Nadia,
Makes me feel at home wherever I am.
I love your sharing of your experiences…so connecting.
I relate! We live in the East but are both Westerners at heart…so much so when we got married we changed our last name to West!
I am not sure where we are supposed to live as “my people” are not bound by a particular place or region. Right now, we are living towards our dream of taking us and our two kids on the road in a “tour bus” in 2 years. I hope to be fully mobile with my work so that like the snail we are at home literally wherever we go!
I look forward to hearing more of your journey.
much love
Katie
Hi Katie,
That is so cool that you changed your last name to “West” to reflect how you feel. I love it. I also love the dream that you are working towards. That sounds like fun.
I look forward to reading about what that is like when the dream comes true. And may it happen sooner than later!
Nadia – I’m so glad that I discovered your blog. You’re a very clear and strong writer.
My husband and I moved to Sedona, Arizona a few years ago and it has re-generated our lives. We had developed “red rock fever” when we visited here originally, but our gut instincts about it being “home” were right on. We just weren’t a good fit with the east coast anymore.
Best of luck with your decisions!
Sunny
Hi Sunny,
Sedona is definitely a beautiful place. I can see why you two fell in love with it. The rock formations and the desert sky are just amazing. Good for you for following your heart!
Thank you so much for sharing your story and for all the support! Both are appreciated!
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